Why, then are marriages so often filled with tension, bitterness, distance, shallow satisfactions, routine, and short lived moments of romance? why do we sometimes face a problem within our own marriage and after earnest prayer and brutal self-examination, remain unsure how to respond to our mates in a way that will deepen our oneness. Are there real solutions that will develop the true intimacy? Because only within the context of relationship can the deepest needs of human personality be met. Do you agree with this, what is your outlook concerning this?
“Marriage: If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.”
“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.”
Marriage has the power to set the course of your life as a whole. If your marriage is strong, even if all the circumstances in your life around you are filled with trouble and weakness, it won’t matter. You will be able to move out into the world in strength.”
If you’re going to “settle down” with someone, make sure that they’re marriage material and not someone that you’re just “settling” with. Before falling head over heels for a person, make sure that it’s the real thing, rather than just their REPRESENTATIVE that will usually wear off within 90 days. Pray, be patient, pay attention, ask questions, and become friends first before entering into a relationship with a person based on emotions and a few interactions.
“Sowing The Seed of Love”
Dear reader, one of the greatest gift you can give to your husband or wife is to sow the seed of love. Because the very thing you did to get him or her, you must do even more to keep him or her. Do you miss the good old days, when your lover listened spellbound to your stories, treated you like the sexiest person on the earth? They gave you more then just their attention. They gave you themselves. As we get to know our partner better, we often love them more deeply and feel a closer bond.
This my friend is the revelation of commitment. Remember, divorce is not an option: It is not your news, it’s not your destination. Therefore it should never be a second thought. Divorce, under almost any circumstance, can be traumatic emotional devastation, added burdens, and uncertainty. Therefore, allow the seed of love to be cultivated in your heart and in your marriage.
“Your wedding completely changes the direction of your life, you know, no matter how greatly you desire it. I think that moment of doubt and faintness comes from all those imagined and now impossible futures all pressing in on you at once. It is your last chance to experience them, you see, and they all want to be lived at that moment. You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth and realize you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.
Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. Now your ready to conquer your greatest fear.
No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.”
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” Always Remember,
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
Seeking to know HIM more and more. And in doing so, I find that my outlook on life is more like HIS and I’m a more sympathetic and empathetic and tolerable person. I came to the understanding that I should be thankful for EVERYTHING, because it is all HIS! So I share more. I’m thankful for the hard times, because I know they only come to make me strong! If I’d never had a problem,
How’d I know that HE could solve them?
I look for random acts of kindness to perform. I pray and worship and cry and wail and pray and ALWAYS GIVE THANKS !